Are you losing hope that your duas don’t get answered? Guess what … no dua goes unanswered. Here’s what’s happening.
By Gilla Barre
New Delhi, India
Dua … my escape, my solace.
The only way I feel connected to my Rabb when I’m engulfed with grief.
During the darkest moments of my life, I find myself begging Him, in tears, during the depths of the night to ease the pain I feel, to unburden my troubled soul. With each word I whisper, I feel that pain loosen, knowing that He hears every single dua I make, every single word I utter.
The tranquil feeling of knowing that He (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) is so near, especially when there is no one to hear the silent screams of my nafs, is so comforting.
وَإِذَا سَأَلَكَ عِبَادِي عَنِّي فَإِنِّي قَرِيبٌ
And when My servants ask you, [O Muhammad], concerning Me – indeed I am near.
Whenever I feel distressed, a little prayer is so empowering and liberating. It gives me the hope of a better day to come.
We all make sincere duas with the belief and faith that Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) will accept our duas and our troubles will end. There is nothing wrong with that. Duas should be made with the yaqeen (certainty) that Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) will accept them. But what happens when the dua we made isn’t answered the way we wanted or when we wanted it??
Earlier in my life, I would get frustrated, curse my destiny, become impatient and doubt that maybe Allah is ignoring my dua. That would let my imaan dip further and shaytaan would play with my mind. This crazy, negative mental dialogue would start playing in my head and I would ask myself, “What am I doing wrong?”, “what am I being punished for?”, “Why does Allah answer so and so’s duas more than mine?”
Well, that’s where the problem lies. We often think that when a dua isn’t answered, it is not accepted.
Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said:
“Your Lord, may He be blessed and exalted, is characterized by modesty and generosity, and He is so kind to His slave that, if His slave raises his hands to Him, He does not let him take them back empty.”
(Abu Dawud 1488, classed as sahih)
Every single dua I make is accepted by Allah as long as it does not have any evil motives.
If they are answered, why the delay, you may ask? It is because we often forget that duas are answered through Allah’s infinite Wisdom and Will. Because only He (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) knows what is khayr for us and what isn’t. So, no dua you make is ignored. And if it is delayed, it is because Allah knows what is the most appropriate time that would bring more blessings than harm into our lives.
We think that there’s good in the things we ask for. I might think a job would set off your career to a magical start or that someone you would like to marry will love you sincerely and take you all the way to Jannah. And, when we don’t get it, we lose faith and feel rejected.
When we make a dua, we need to have the firm belief that Allah will accept it but only in the way that He (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) knows is better for us. When Allah withholds a wish, perhaps He is testing you and your faith in Him during a trial to see whether you would bear it with sabr and iman. Or may be because what you asked for is not right for you and so He guides you to something far better.
So, this explains why certain duas aren’t answered the way we want. Duas are accepted in three ways – it is either answered immediately OR it blocks an unforeseen calamity the we do not know of OR it is preserved for some greater reward in the Hereafter.
“The invocation of any one of you is granted [by Allah] as long as he does not show impatience by saying, “I have invoked Allah but my request has not been answered.”
(Sahih al-Bukhari 6340)
So next time you make a dua, remember:
- Avoid sinning and seek forgiveness from Allah. Constant repentance not only opens doors to Rizq and Rahma, but dua of a person who constantly repents is readily answered. “And [Nooh] said, ‘Ask forgiveness of your Lord. Indeed, He is ever a Perpetual Forgiver. He will send [rain from] the sky upon you in [continuing] showers; And give you increase in wealth and children and provide for you gardens and provide for you rivers. (Qur’an 71:10-12)
- Make dua at the times when they are answered the most – in sujood, after fard prayers, when it rains or during last third of the night.
- Make sure you make dua with the firm belief that Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) will accept your duas.
- Do not get disheartened or think that Allah isn’t listening. Be patient, be persistent.
I have realised that the many duas I made which were not granted the way I was asking for were actually a blessing because I was instead given something far greater and bigger than I ever asked for. Everything that Allah does is only done to help us grow closer to Him, but we often make the mistake of becoming pessimistic and negative about things.
Make dua, supplicate daily and submit to your Lord, not just during a calamity, but to thank Him for the abundance of khayr in your life.
Constantly seek Allah’s forgiveness and learn to remain content with His Qadr. Along with persistent dua, make sincere efforts to change your situation. Have faith and reliance (Twakkul) in Allah and His unlimited ability to pull you out of your miseries, no matter how how hopeless your situation may seem.
“Believers should trust only in Allah.”(3:122)
Remember, the way your dua is answered is in accordance to Allah’s infinite wisdom and Qadr and the way He knows is Khayr for you. So, do not despair.