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Overcoming Grief

Overcoming Grief

Sometimes, you face unimaginable problems and get extremely stressed. The trick is to let Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) do His work.

By Ambreen Binte Muhammad

Islamabad, Pakistan

In Surah Al Balad Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) says:

لَقَدْ خَلَقْنَا الْإِنسَانَ فِي كَبَدٍ

We have certainly created man into hardship.

(Qur’an 90:4)

According to the Qur’an, a human being lives in trials and hardships from the day he was born till death. Many scholars say that none of the creations bears more hardships than human beings because of their strong mental capabilities. But all these tribulations have a purpose behind them and that is to check who will do Ihsan Amal (the better deeds).

In the second ayah of Surah Al Mulk, Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى says

الَّذِي خَلَقَ الْمَوْتَ وَالْحَيَاةَ لِيَبْلُوَكُمْ أَيُّكُمْ أَحْسَنُ عَمَلًا ۚ وَهُوَ الْعَزِيزُ الْغَفُورُ

[He] who created death and life to test you [as to] which of you is best in deed – and He is the Exalted in Might, the Forgiving.

(Qur’an 67:2) 

So, whatever we face in this life is a trial, the only way to stay successful in these trials is to be optimistic and give a positive response in every situation. We need to remain thankful of His favours and recognise and praise Him and in difficulties remain patient and take the necessary legal steps that would please the  Lord.

Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) says in Surah Al Anbiya, 

وَنَبْلُوكُم بِالشَّرِّ وَالْخَيْرِ فِتْنَةً ۖ

… And We test you with evil and with good as trial; …

(Qur’an 21:35)

The Arabic word for bad situations in this ayah is sharr. Sharr is anything that goes against our will and preference. It could be sickness, sadness or poverty. And khayr includes health, happiness, peace and luxury. But the reason behind giving a slave all this is to check the steadfastness of man.

From the lives of Prophets we learn about all the hardships they faced with resoluteness and the ample rewards they achieved in return. But what was the motivation that kept them consistent? I believe, it was the clear understanding they had about the fleeting nature of life on this earth.

Taking the example of Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه وسلم ) he faced disease, pain, hunger, injuries and was even caught in magic for which he used ruqya. All of these hardships were to get more ajr (reward), and also to give a sense of relief to the ummah. If the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) can accept and bear these trials, how can we be so coward to face them?

Also, it raises a big question for us as Muslims — are we running the world? Or is Allah? Trials are predestined, they are a part of our life. Sometimes, you can’t help yourself in certain situations or you get worried about the things happening around you and you get extremely stressed. The trick is to let Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) do His work. You just need to put your trust in Him and fulfill your obligations to Him.

Another point to remember is that there is endless wisdom behind the trials we face. These trials:

  • bring us closer to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى).
  • give us an opportunity to do tawbah (repent).
  • cleanse away the dirt of sins from us.
  • rectify our behaviour.
  • make us understand that this world is not a place one should get attached to

So, the hardships and trials of life should be faced with persistence with the hope of relief and reward and with a dua to convert the sadness into happiness.

About Ambreen Binte Muhammad

The writer is a biochemist and student of Qur'an. She is a youth group worker and lives to fulfil the purpose of her life and bring the youth out of their troubles by seeing the true colours of life through the prism of Qur'an.

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