Shyness in these times is considered a weakness. Why is hayaa’ no longer treasured by us?
For a girl, I think the most prized possession she owns after Islam is her hayaa, her dignity, and her repute. I’ll say this again and again – if a girl is in the right frame of mind, the most precious diamond for her in the entire world is her own izzah (honour).
We live in an era where anyone who is shy is looked upon as someone stupid and unable to express oneself. We live in a society where girls too do not care how they come across and hence the ones who do are considered paranoid and obsessed about their reputation.
Were the izzah of a girl who is rational trampled and stamped upon right in front of her eyes, any girl, in the right frame of mind, will feel the pain and suffering of it.
I want to talk about the society we live in hoping that Allah puts some barakah in my words and it may reach someone somewhere and make an impact.
Sadly, we have a major problem in our societies – a girl’s shyness is considered her weakness. It is used as a tool against her to humiliate her and crush her honor and self-confidence – the very thing that was most prized to her. She is made to seem as a weakling who cannot defend herself. Hence, might as well crush her just like an ant is crushed under the feet.
The girl who is struggling to keep her emaan with her broken self-confidence most likely begins her ride downhill in terms of social performance. Might I also add, she is not allowed to get disturbed – yeah, she isn’t. She is expected to be as productive as she was earlier – the same enthusiasm, the same self-confidence, the same quality of work is expected out of her. If she lags behind, it’s her fault. Something is wrong with her, isn’t it?
I’ve seen this in my school, my college, as well as some of my other personal experiences. It is always the shy ones that become an object of joke and their self-confidence is crushed. Why? I saw this and I’m not exaggerating. I’m talking about our own Ummah – it is one part of the Ummah pulling down the other and this is a crisis.
Narrated ‘Abdullah (bin ‘Umar): Once Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) passed by an Ansari (man) who was admonishing his brother regarding Haya’. On that Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said, “Leave him as Haya’ is a part of faith.” (Sahih al-Bukhari 24)
We need each other to come out as strong productive individuals who can benefit society. I cry out to my Muslim Ummah – don’t crush a part of your own self. The Ummah is like one body – if one part is hurting, the other one cannot be at ease.
سُبْحـانَكَ اللّهُـمَّ وَبِحَمدِك، أَشْهَـدُ أَنْ لا إِلهَ إِلاّ أَنْتَ أَسْتَغْفِرُكَ وَأَتوبُ إِلَـيْك
– The sister writes under the pen name Fathima.