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‘I don’t want this baby’

Umme Aiyman

Mahrashtra, India

 

‘Hard to make and easy to break’, goes one of the sayings. It takes months and years to create or produce something, but sometimes minutes or even seconds to destroy it. Similarly, it sometimes takes a lot of time to successfully conceive a baby. Many couples only dream of having their own cute little baby in their hands, and after many disappointments seek expensive medical procedures, like artificial fertilization (test tube baby).

On the other hand, sometimes unwanted pregnancies are handled in a way that is inhuman and absolutely wrong, The pregnancy is avoided by way of abortion, and little thought is given to it afterwards.
Prevention of pregnancy is a different thing but termination is killing, and is totally forbidden.

One afternoon, tensed Zubaida calls her husband Tariq, and informs him that she might be expecting a baby.
Tariq: “Alhamdulillah, that’s great news. Zara is 3 years old now so we can have another baby.”
Zubaida: “Alhamdulillah we have a son and a daughter, I think we don’t need another child. With today’s economic crisis it’s difficult to maintain high standards of living and provide a good education to children. Parenting with high values is a difficult task. I don’t think we need to burden ourselves with more responsibility. What do you think?”
A little disappointed but agreeing, Tariq replies,”OK, as you say, we will go to see a doctor then”.
They go to see a doctor the next day. The doctor confirms, “It’s 6 weeks pregnancy, it’s early so OK, there’s not much risk to the mother’s body. I will give you some medicines, and you may feel some pain. You’ll need to follow up after a week.”

A week after taking the pill,  she was no more pregnant. Both Zubaida and Tariq eased sitting in their garden, unaware of a gruesome crime they had just committed. Ending of a life that was gifted to them by Allah.

Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) says:

“Because of that We ordained for the Children of Israel that if anyone killed a person not in retaliation of murder, or (and) to spread mischief in the land – it would be as if he killed all mankind, and if anyone saved a life, it would be as if he saved the life of all mankind.”

(Qur’an, 5:32)


One of the justifications for aborting a child is that it is just a fetus, and not an actual human being. However, this is not entirely true. From the moment a fetus is attached to the uterine wall of the mother, a life has already come into being, and starts its journey to completion. At 6 weeks of pregnancy the heart is already formed and beating. The formation of essential organs like lung, liver and kidney has started, arms and legs are formed as buds, cheeks, jaws, eyes and nostrils are developing too.

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It is unimaginable to think of killing a child, but we forget that the life of a child before birth is just as sacred and precious.

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There are many couples who fear that they will not be able to feed their children or provide them with the best lifestyle, but we must remember that it’s not us who feeds them, it’s Allah who feeds them. Allah is Ar-Razzaq – The Provider.

He (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) says:

Verily, Allah is the All-Provider, Owner of Power, the Most Strong.

(Qur’an, 51:58)

It is a common thinking of many people that the more children they have, the more scarcity they’ll face because of distribution of provision. As parents, it becomes a responsibility to equally distribute resources among the children, while at the same time ensuring that all their needs are met with. This gives a general idea that if there are less kids, resources will be used in a better way and among less members of the family, leading to better life standards. What we fail to believe in is that each person born on this earth brings his/ her own provision. Allah provides for each one of us through His infinite mercy, and He has not made any soul a burden on another.

Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) says explicitly in the Qur’an:

Is there any creator other than Allah, Who provides you from the heaven and the earth? There is no god but He. How, then, are you turning away (from Him).

(Qur’an, 35:3)

In another place, Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) says:

“Kill not your children for fear of want: We shall provide sustenance for them as well as for you. Verily the killing of them is a great sin.  

(Qur’an, 17:31)”

Aborting a child is permissible under the circumstances where the pregnancy puts the mother’s life at risk.

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Our deen teaches us to take care of our bodies and mental health first and foremost. Allah does not burden a soul beyond its capacity.

It is mentioned in the Qur’an:

“Allah does not burden a soul beyond that it can bear”

(Qur’an, 2:286)

In cases where a pregnancy can cause bodily harm to the mother, it is an option that can be considered. But since we know that actions are based on intention, it s purely our intention that decides if truly there is a cause for abortion, or it is simply a convenience.

May Allah give us hidaya to follow the right path, and put complete trust on Him. We need to realize as Muslims that Allah is the Caretaker of each life that arrives on this earth, and therefore trust that He will definitely provide for them in the best possible way.

About Umme Aiyman

The writer is a mother of three, dentist by qualification and homemaker by choice. She is learning Arabic grammar with an aim to understand the Qur'an. Loves painting and graphic design.

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