What do you say when you have the most amazing woman in the world as your mum?
By Khadijah Sharif
Khadijah. I’m so proud to have that name.
Tonnes of thanks to my grandfather for choosing this amazing name for me. And much more gratitude for the evolution of my name from being khuteejaa (odd desi pronunciation for Khadijah) to Khadijah. Can’t imagine someone calling me that!
I still remember, when I was in school my friends would bully me. They’d say I had a very “old-kind-of name”. It’s not trendy.
I would feel so disheartened and always questioned my mum: why did you choose that name out of all others? Her answer would always be, “You have the name of a woman who was the first to accept Islam; you have the name of a woman who is amongst the four leading women and this same amazing woman got the salam of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and Jibreel (عليه السلام) and the glad tidings of the Palace of the Pearl.”
Subhan’Allah, it took me time to understand these words but soon this name alone was one of the biggest reasons for me to come closer to the deen.
It’s amazing how it inspired me and transformed me from being nothing to something. Those where the best days of my life when I was a starter … Subhan’Allah that sweetness of iman. It gives me an iman rush even now when I think of it!
I started to thank Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) for giving me such a beautiful name. I wanted to live like her (رضي الله عنها). I wanted to be exactly the way she was. I wanted to do stuff exactly the way she did.
Though most of her seerah is recorded as a wife and a mother, I wanted to live like her in every role I played in life.
A well-balanced picture was when she played the role of a mother and a very well-established businesswoman before her marriage with Rasool Allah (صلى الله عليه وسلم). Her supportiveness and counseling when Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) came running back from the cave of hira after the first revelation. The way she consoled him with soothing words and took him to Waraqa bin Nawfal.
In this age of fitna, it’s very hard to trust your spouse and leave him for days together. But she did. She gave him (صلى الله عليه وسلم) space, never questioned him on why he left her alone; she trusted him.
Come to think of it, she was a woman, she could have demanded that he spend time with her. But she knew well that her husband (صلى الله عليه وسلم) loved to go and meditate. She respected his likes and never stopped him from it. This is a quality of a real Muslim woman, Subhan’Allah!
When they were boycotted in Sheib Abi Talib (http://www.islamiclandmarks.com/saudi/makkah/other/valley_of_abu_talib.html), she supported the Muslims with her wealth and never complained.
Khadijah (رضي الله عنها) played a tremendously amazing role as a mother. She nurtured her children and ensured their upbringing in the noblest of manner. Fatima (رضي الله عنها) has the title of being one of the four leading women in Islam and he will also be the leader of women in jannah. This obviously goes back to her parents, who inculcated the best of manners in her.
The relationship between RasoolAllah (صلى الله عليه وسلم) and Hazrat Khadijah is the most amazing love story I have ever read.
Is there anything more I need to add to say just how amazing she was and why I love her so much?
Wallahi, my love for her is so true that I always pray to be her neighbour in jannah. That I am resurrected with her on the Day of Judgment. That I get her qualities in me and I become wise like her because she knew perfectly how to act in which situation. I want to look up to her in everything I do.
One of the most beautiful parts of my life, which relates completely to hers is my wedding proposal. And I’m so proud of this. 🙂 I can’t wait to share this with my mother in Jannah inshaa’Allah.
The Messenger of Allah (صلى الله عليه وسلم) was managing her trade and she was so impressed by his work that once her friend Nafisa came to meet her and in their conversation she asked Khadijah (رضي الله عنها) about her marriage, since she had been divorced earlier. And then Khadijah (رضي الله عنها) confided in her about a man who fit her image of being a perfect man. Nafisa, the first matchmaking aunty in our Islamic history, went with the proposal to RasoolAllah (صلى الله عليه وسلم).
Subhanallah, it was the same for me! 🙂
One of my friends came to me once and asked about what my plans were for getting married. I told her that I was considering this guy … he is awesome! He is like that perfect one I thought of. The very next day she went and spoke to him and his family. And trust me, overnight my life changed. And this is been one of the best things that has ever happened to me.
My story started like hers and I always pray that it ends like hers, too. With the same qualities, the same devotion and the love for the religion of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) that she had.
I just love you mommy dear! Longing to meet you.